Category: Trail Tips

We all have been there and experienced it.  Being in a big box store when you ask a sales associate where a particular item is located?  The typical response is: Go to aisle 78 and it’s half way down on the right side: and if not there, they may have moved it to aisle 14 on the end cap.  Then there is the associate, who says.  “Let go together and find it, as it might have been moved, but I’ll stay with you till we get you what you need.  And isn’t this what we all need at different at times in our lives. Someone to get in the mud/snow and walk through those tough journeys with us.  And we need to do the same.  Get in the mud/snow with others and help them on their difficult journeys. I’m finding the surprising thing about these Boots on friends is that they may come to us from places we least expect it. Going through a job search, I got connected with Bobby Cornelius, at Lake Pointe church in Texas; who asked me what help I needed on this journey.  My response was “Bobby, I need someone to put their boots on and walk this journey with me.  Someone who has been down this path before and will give me guidance and point out the trails to avoid and trails I need to rush to.”  And as my emotions rose up in me, he said, I’m putting them on now…In Hiking, who has put their boots on to help with you on your difficult trails?  It’s where others have stayed with us during our hard journeys, walked along side of us, given us encouraging words and helped us push through.  It’s training next to us when we are recovering from a broken Tibia, or coming out of the Grand Canyon with incredible leg cramps and having dry heaves as we push to the finish.

In our Personal life, it’s family tragedies where I often see people putting their boots on and making sacrifices for us.  Walking out of an Emergency Room at the hospital at 3 am to see friends sitting there, just to be available in case we need something. It’s people bring over a meal, eating with us; while we share our sorrow and then taking the extra time to do the cleanup for us.

At Work; it’s often during the initial time of starting with a new company.  We get the organizational charts, the company polices, and the process documents to follow; but who can give us the information on how to really get things done? Who has the informal power? How should we approach difficult people? Who are the client power people we need to interact with? What information does the management really want in status reports?  All questions that can we can get answered when we find the person(s) who are willing to put on their boots and help us during the first critical weeks in a new job?  And in the case of being out of work, as mentioned above, it can be the person who puts on their books to walk with us during our time of unemployment.

Boots on people can come in and out of our lives as we travel on the trails of life.  It’s looking for them in our times of need and reading people to know who can be approached as a potential boots on friend.  And it goes both ways.  We also need to be available to be a boots on friend to others.  Take some time with your inner circle of friends and share how you have been helped by people who have put their boots on for you and how you have put your boots on to help others.

Do you ever get tunnel vision when going thru a crisis or major event in your life; where you don’t think about anything else?  For me, the answer is a resounding YES!!!  And 2020 was not exception: COVID, lose of job, kitchen remodeling, and a major roof repair project.  Any one of them by themselves would cause major stress, but when you have 2 or 3 hitting at the same time, it’s easy to get this tunnel vision, where I just want it to end. I drop connections and activities, because I just want to get it done.  Or in other words, I start to just live and don’t have a life; thinking “I can start having a life again when XYZ is done”.  And all the fun get sucked out of my life.  We wake up each morning thinking about everything to do, but do we ever wake up thinking about “What will I do today to have some FUN”. Given where my mind has been with the items above, I’ve been thinking a lot more about how I can intentionally make having fun apart of my regular routines. 

In Hiking; we can get tunnel vision on goals we have set for ourselves; distance per month, elevation gain per month, setting new PRs on the incline, 14ers climbed etc. We start to lose track of why we are hiking in the first place and begin to limit ourselves on who we are hiking with because they don’t have the same goals or speed.   I think we have break out of this by adding a mixture of activities to our hiking.  Intentionally ask other to hike with us, Doing a trail in the opposite way, Putting together a new trail combination, Going for a hike without a watch on or time limitation, etc.  All these things can help put the FUN back into hiking.  Just image doing the Manitou Incline WITHOUT tracking your time!!!

In our Personal life; I think back and remember all the FUN we had playing “Kick the Can” with all the neighborhood kids in the middle of the street.  Internet, WIFI, smart phones, apps; all words never invented at that time and we still had FUN.  Yes, and no one ever got ran over while playing in the street either.  Fast forward to today and we tend to think that having FUN, has to involve play games on devices, watching movies, or binge-watching TV series.  All done in isolation and with no people interactions.  Here are two ways to break out and have FUN; 1) Hop in the car and do a half/all day road trip; exploring off beaten paths or small towns or 2) Get together with family or friends for game night with a favorite board game or card game.

At Work; we can break the work cycle by doing taking time for early morning hikes, lunch time walks/meals or team celebrations.  We get into the mind set of thinking we have all this work to do and can’t stop for any breaks.  Yet it is the breaks to have FUN that allows our brains to reset and recharge our batteries and soul.  Think of the lumber jack who stops on a regular basis to sharpen their chain saw blade.  Without the stop, the blade gets duller and duller till it’s no good or worse; breaks off.

Like everything else these days, unless we schedule it, FUN is not going to happen.  And it may not be with the same people.  We need to identify what we are going to do to have fun, who we want to do it with and when we will do it.  What are you going to do to start having FUN on a regular basis in your hiking, personal, and work life???

How much time do you spend each day living with FEAR – False Evidence Appearing Real?  Given the current world we are living in with problems of: COVID, Political unrest, Unemployment, Health issues, Family issues, etc. there is a lot of FEAR out there.  Listening to the radio while on an errand today, the talk show host brought up this FEAR definition and it got me thinking that there is FEAR in the different areas of our lives.  We may not feel it every day, but it made me realize I spend more time with FEAR than I care to admit.  Peeling back the layers of FEAR, I can see it does affect my Hiking, Personal, and Work life.

In Hiking, I’ve let FEAR affect me before and during hikes.  How many times have we not gone on a hike because we said: it’s too cold, too dark, too much distance, too hot, I’m too tired, I’m never gone that distance, others are too fast, etc.  While some of these fears are real, many of these FEARS we allow into our mind are NOT true.  And then there is the FEAR we let in during the hikes. Starting up the Manitou Incline, I’ve let FEAR convince me that I’m not in shape and I need to take a break.  [And once I take that first break, I’m now taking them every few hundred steps, instead of pressing on through the FEAR.]  Or on other hikes, we tell others to “just go ahead, I can’t keep up with you”, convincing ourselves that their fast pace is more important than my safety hiking alone.  [And I’ve been on both sides of this coin.]

In my Personal life, I’ve let FEAR affect family relationships and how I think others see me. During uncomfortable discussions with my wife, FEAR jumps out and I take the issue on as something that demeans my personal value, as I think I’m a failure, all hope is lost, etc. – instead of separating the issue from who I am as a person.  Or during holiday times, I let FEAR creep in because all of my family members may not be there.   And I think it’s because of something I’ve not done or not done good enough.  FEAR then starts to affect the mood of the time I have with family members.

At work with unemployment, I have to guard against FEAR affecting my self-worth when I hear of others landing jobs or when I get my third offer decline of the day.  And when we have jobs, we tend to let the little mistakes we make start to make us think that our skill set isn’t good enough.

We all have and will continue to see “False Evidence Appearing Real” trying to get a toe-hold in our lives and creep in.  We need to fight this by watching out for false evidence and by looking at our hiking, personal, and work life to see where we have already let FEAR come in.  As I’ve said in many Trail Tips, this is where you need to have a confidant, where you can discuss your FEAR with them and let them be able to tell you where you have FEAR that you may not even be aware of. Having fear of certain things is important to have in our lives.  But FEAR is something that doesn’t belong anywhere in our lives.  It’s time to identify our FEAR(s), call them by name and get them out of our mind set.

How often do we pause to think about the risks involved with a task or project we are about to undertake?  If you are like me, the answer is going to be not very often.  Be it starting a hike, doing a house project, or a client document; my tendency is to just start the effort and say I’ll figure it out as I go along.  With the result at times; being a major failure.  To change our mindset to think about the risks and controls for tasks and projects, I propose we start to Pause & DRAW, or in other words, pause to do a Deliberate Risk Assessment Work sheet. This military Risk Management process involves: Identifying the hazards, Assessing the hazards, Developing controls and make risk decisions, Implementing controls, and Supervising and evaluate. DD Form 2977, Deliberate Risk Assessment Worksheet, January 2014 (army.mil)  https://www.nec.belvoir.army.mil/dol/documents/DRAW.pdf

While I’m not saying we need to fill out this worksheet every time we go something; I am saying my hiking, personal, and work life would look a lot different if I would take time to do some form of a Pause & DRAW on a regular basis before I start hikes, projects, and tasks. Consider these examples.

In hiking, hazards include ice/snow, heat, and storms rolling in at the higher altitudes. Take the Manitou Incline: Hazard is ice, Assessment (Risk) is High, Control is foot traction, Implementation is buying traction, and Supervising is must wear traction or don’t do it.  Another example is hiking above 10,000 feet: Hazard is weather, Risk is variable, Control is getting specific weather reports for the altitude you are climbing at, Implementation is change of plans (start earlier or change hike) and Supervising is share plans with people who can help you make that Go/No Go decision.

In my personal life, I think of house projects/tasks as where I would be in a different place financially and physically if I would have taken the time to Pause & DRAW.  I don’t think of how much having a kitchen remodeled is going to affect our eating out bill.  Or the physical cost from not stopping to think about what could happen; if I’m on a ladder cutting a tree branch with a chain saw.  The branch is cut, falls on ladder, I jump off ladder, right let is caught in ladder rung…

In my work life: doing a DRAW for client Statement of Work, would be great habit to start.  Have I paused to verify the numbers? Do we know ALL the requirements?  Will vacations impact the delivery date?  Are resources locked in to work on the project will we just try to schedule them in as we go along.  Are there other potential projects that could compete with and affect my resources?  Am I dependent on outside items that could affect the schedule?

Understanding DRAW, doesn’t mean we need to do one in detail for every hike, project, or work event.  However, I do know that my life will be a lot different if I take the time to Pause & DRAW a lot more.  And “taking the time” is key to success.  Most of my mistakes in life have been caused by not taking the time to properly assess the situation before I start.  Let’s begin to do more risk assessments by sharing our DRAWs with others and verbalizing them as a way get into the habit of Pause & DRAW.

Hope: A feeling of expectation and desire for a positive outcome.

It’s time to start a smoking habit.  It’s time to start Smoken Hope.  Just like we breath in air every minute of every day and don’t ever think about it.  We are also starting to breath in a lot of despair and depression with the world we are living in: COVID, unemployment, forced stay-at-home, lack of community and other things are affecting our mental health.  Just like smoking cigarettes is bad for our lungs; smoking -taking in- despair and depression is bad for our body and mental health.  But it’s time to change that projectory.  It’s time to start breathing in a feeling of expectation and desire for a certain (positive) outcome.  It starts with hoping for small things and starting to see hope around us.  Lysa Terkeurst says in her book Forgiving What You Can’t Forget; “What we look for is what we will see.  What we see determines our perspective.  And our perspective becomes our reality”.  She also gives the car example, where once you buy a certain car, you start to see them everywhere.  And that is so true.  We bought a Honda CRV a year ago and every time I drive it, I see them everywhere now.  If we are looking for HOPE, we will start to see it all around us.  Even in the drive thru at Chick-fil-A.  So how can we start Smoken Hope in our hiking, personal and work life?  Well it starts with declaring what we are not going take in to our mind and declaring what we are going to breath into our life.

In hiking with winter setting in; IT’S NOT; being discouraged by the short days, snow, ice, cold, and wind that is all around us.  IT IS: knowing that hiking through the winter will give you a strong base for the spring.  It is knowing that getting out will clear your head and make your heart stronger.  It is knowing that hiking Dixon Trail to the top of Cheyenne Mountain or Mt. Rosa will become a May hike and not a July hike.  [Both about 14 miles and over 3500 feet vertical.]

In our personal life, IT’S NOT: Fretting about not seeing all your family at holidays.  IT IS about enjoying the time with the family and friends we did get to see.  It is about seeing my sons sitting around the table and talking with us for an hour after the Thanksgiving meal was done.  IT’S Not about waking up in the morning with a sense of dread and doubt about your ability to function and get to the end of day.  IT IS about breathing in Hope and positive expectations for a great day.  IT IS about seeing the small positive things that build on each other.

In our work life, IT’S NOT: wondering if you have the right job skills, second guessing decisions you make, doubting your ability to get a job done well, or wondering if you made the right career choice to begin with.  IT IS about knowing you have God given skills that make you unique with a purpose for where you are working.  IT IS about having that sense of expectation for every task you complete and meeting you attend; AND knowing you can have a positive impact on your co-workers.

So, what kind of hope are you smoken? What expectations (hope) do you want for your hiking, personal, and work life? Have you shared that hope with others?  I challenge you in this difficult season to share your hope with others and ask them about what kind of hope they are smoken?  The next time you want to meet someone for a hike or a meal; start with “Let’s go on a hike and smoke some hope” or “Let’s get together some evening and smoke some hope.  Just like a cigar room gets filled with cigar smoke; your Smoken Hope room will begin to burst with HOPE. 

In closing I would like to acknowledge Jim Maffuccio for the phrase “Smoken Hope”, which was the genesis for this Trail Tip.